I found love, in page 186

A recent tweet by @Laugh it got me thinking and of course, laughing.

For those who know me, I am the last person who should be blogging on “love” as we know it. For what it’s worth, I feel that my opinion of two cents is in fact required. That’s what most bloggers try to do anyway yes?

I was never a romantic person. Still am not. I find Valentine’s Day silly, holding hands and ladida and whatever else that follows. As opposites do attract and the formation of the binary equation is required, I’ve dated guys who are well, comparatively more romantic than I am. Which I think is a good thing, after all, someone needs to have that romantic bone.

For me, being in a relationship used to come down to one thing: compatibility. It’s a lesson I learnt from Jane Austen’s “Pride and Prejudice” while analysing the relationship between Elizabeth and Darcy. I firmly believe that love is to some extent momentary – the definition and time period of this word could vary for all of us – and therefore, as you have the potential to fall “in” love, there is also a chance of you falling “out” of love. If compatibility between the two is there however, the relationship should, and will work.

Based on experience, I found another factor that contributes towards the sustenance of a relationship: communication. It’s something I definitely to work on. I have a “list” of people – I’m not kidding – who matter to me. I also am a workaholic – to some extent when I am not on vacation! I also believe that relationships needn’t be prioritised over work #FailSeni Thus despite studying and being involved in a communication related industry, personal communication for me is a huge fail.

Like my choice of career and many other things in life, I don’t know what to do now. Not with regard to relationships or any darn thing that seems to revolve around me. One thing I do know for certain is that my presence online is increasing, which I guess is a good thing. At least I have a virtual life that I could speak highly of #Win

That Love-Hate Relationship

I don’t know what else to call it. I know for sure that it doesn’t reach either extreme of the afore mentioned emotions but it reaches near there all right.

It is one that is defined by unwanted telephone calls, verbal lashings – silently endured and responded to from one end – heights of disrespect from either end, but still it survives.

I wonder if there is a mutual ground that we both stand on. We work for the same cause I agree. The other’s motives maybe slightly different from mine. Clearly, it has to be. However, it is not as though we even have a common enemy that we are up against.

The binary of the two is obvious. One is undoubtedly more authoritative than the other. Yet, the other knows that the relationship has to co-exist.

What I do not understand further is that we do have our moments of mirth, sometimes perhaps unknown to others.

I do acknowledge that God is great. I also do acknowledge that sometimes, some things were not meant for our understanding.

Childhood Fantasies

Probably as a result of all the developmental psychology, I tend to apply the theories to my life and see, if I too have been a part of all these teachings while growing up. I suppose I have, and I don’t know which came first – the teachings and its application or a genuine sense of confusion – but my instinct tells me that at present it is Erikson’s Identity vs. Identity Confusion that has come in to play with my life now. Yes, I know that it is for adolescents, but as the lecturer said, the latter part of one stage tends to overlap with its proceeding stage. Yes, let’s go save my ass.

As a child of four years I wanted to become the President. CBK was my role model then and as purple was her favourite colour, it was mine too – the purple three wheelers I insisted to go in! Then came the eras of the doctor, mechanical engineer, the pilot – which hung around for a LONG time -, psychologist, then after A/Ls I started working as a journalist. When I left to India last May, I knew two things: I liked to write, or rather I enjoyed writing and I like all the subjects I was going to study.

Now however, a year a little few months after studying I have realised a few more things: I still like all my subjects; I have to do honours in either psychology or literature, if not it would be problematic during post-graduation; communication, journalism and media in particular cannot be taught – the best of journalists (at least the ones I know whom I consider to be the best) comes with aeons of experience (think that applies to most professions in Sri Lanka); I am inclining towards literature, though I have no idea what I would want to do after.

One of the biggest problems I faced when I went back home was the question of, ‘What would you do after your degree?’ Clearly I don’t want to do Masters immediately. I wouldn’t mind, provided it is during the evening or weekend and I could work simultaneously. I know I want to stay in Sri Lanka, but yes there is that slight craving for London (I have no idea where that came from). I don’t mind teaching, for a while but no, not a life long career. Research? Lots of issues to deal with there.

Why couldn’t times be like that of our parents? When opportunities were limited and we didn’t have to dwell long and hard on our futures. Yes, I know I’m being lazy and irresponsible now. Everyone would be a doctor, or an engineer or wait, that is my Indian mentality coming in to play now.

Or why couldn’t we just stick to the ambitions or career choices we opted for while children? Why can’t I be the next President. Yes, you may roll your eyes.

When I was fifteen, I wanted two things in life before I turned nineteen: ten piercings and at least one published book of all that poetry. I would turn twenty-one this December and I have seven piercings and all that poetry locked away.

D for David

I may have been a journalist for a little over six months, but if written content appeals to me, I call it good writing. Bias, opinionated and very unprofessional as it lacks the required objectivity in journalism but I honestly don’t care. I love myself and believe that my take on things that matter to me are accurate. The first paragraph is self-explanatory of the initial half of the previous sentence *chuckle*

I look forward Lasantha David’s writings not only because he is my friend; I look forward to it because I am able to see his passion for writing and the subject matter visibly whilst reading it. When it comes to being a friend, I am terribly proud of this boy and his book. I wanted to publish two books containing my poetry before I was twenty. I was fifteen when this thought occurred to me – naive, very new to poetry and to reality. I will be twenty-one and have closer upon to seventy poems that are hidden in my closet. But, when I look at Lasantha, “half an IT grad” *chuckle* I am proud of him for having written his first book. I feel like a Mother who is watching her child grow up and pass out of school and university with flying colours. Okay, maybe not all that. It’d be a little creepy if it were so, but the general idea has been established eh?

Another thing about this boy. He is my age, yes will be twenty-one sooner than I would, and Susan, he is mature. As a policy, not only don’t I date but I also refuse, (or maybe it happened unconsciously – which is a very big possibility) to be friends with boys my age. Yes, the clear use of word “boy” in this context was meant to serve its purpose. They are so immature that I can’t help blaming our respective biological functioning. However, since of recent I’ve known two of them, yes a big achievement on my part; and Lasantha is one of them. In fact, he is more mature than guys older than us and no, mention names I shan’t. He was the only soul who kept me sane after my scary treadmill accident. I needed someone to talk to, just blabber with at 7.30am on a Saturday, and this boy was good enough to do so. He didn’t freak out, didn’t insist on flying to India that instant, but he just yapped and played funny YouTube videos of jokers such as myself falling flat on exercise machines #bliss

This boy, often jinxed – as much as I hate to say that – is truly one of a kind. He’s had a hard journey from the very beginning, and I can’t be more thankful to God for giving me one of the bestest friend’s, ever.

Thank you God and thank you David, for showing me that one’s passion could reach to great heights, without a degree :)

Recollecting

Blogging was not a word that crossed my mind the past month. Hopefully elections this time around would permit me to blog more.

However despite not having enough time to blog I have been able to stare out the vehicle window, one too many a time when I was on my way from one place to another all in the name of work, and recollect memories that a part of me, and those of which I could’ve been a part of.

Of the latter, I do not hold any regrets whatsoever, so he told me at least. Not that I have any. None at all even now when I am to be working instead of blogging about my oh-so mundane but mentally exhausting life. However, what bothers me the most are the opportunities that come my way, that I do not get hold of. It becomes intensely frustrating and nags you to bits when you know that you could’ve done that then, but oh it slipped away due to certain circumstances.  Things become worse. Just when you think you decided on what you want and HOW you want things to be, boom-ka-boom! It happens again! The memories that could’ve entered your life comes by again AT the wrong moment. Catch 22.

You were there for me when I needed you.
But then I had to let you drift away.
Now you are here again with me
but I have let you drift again, away.

28th March 2010 | 1243h | Colombo

10 Days After *sigh*

Realisation struck upon entering my page: My previous blog came in 10 days after the one before that. So much for wanting to keep up with one a week. *failed*

However I could partly be excused given that I do type and type all day as it is my job for the time being; as a result of which I am beyond exhausted to type in more after getting back home.

At one point I did consider putting up my what many number of poems. However due to the unfavourable criticism that I received, which ultimately ended my career as poet as well; I decided on not putting up at all. The practical side to the story is that it is a whole heap of work, I cannot be bothered with (yes they are handwritten).

Getting back on track I did realise that I could not stick to my resolution of a blog per week. That’s absolutely nothing in comparison to what full-fledged bloggers do, however it is a start for me at least :) Bright side of the story is that once I do I blog away till dawn neglecting my other work. *precisely what I happen to be doing now instead of finishing up on my work.sigh*

All I look forward is to increase my frequency of blogging and not get sick of being with computers :)

Married!

Upon entering my job I have started to realise its required time commitment. Well, slap me hard for stating the obvious but, I either have a job that takes up so much of my time or I have terrible time management skills.
As for the latter I am quite surprised myself! I thought myself to be somewhat good at it, well for the sake of optimism I feel I’m getting there. Let’s hope the feeling lasts long enough.
The 2010 planner has tonnes of hope and feelings (do not misinterpret that!) in store and would be bubbling with more once the necessary docs and info are passed on.
However still looking at le optimism all I could say that my planning and getting used to comes by soon. Previous experiences of ‘getting used’ to, let’s just say came in too late when things were over and done with!

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